It shouldn't take this much effort just to exist
(and you can stop fixing, pretending, hiding, shrinking or sleeping your way through life)
Are you a “good one” but feel condemned and guilty? Successful, but feel like an imposter? Filled with wonder and adventure but find yourself sitting still? Do you have a world of love to give, yet feel like a lonely caretaker? Do you want to connect but find yourself isolating instead? You are careful and considerate when it feels like noone else is? Feel like your running on a script of “shoulds” without recognition or returns - and in the end feel exhausted?
Those who find DocGom Therapy are the “load bearing walls” of their lives. You aren’t fixing things because you want to be a saint; you’re fixing things because you feel the expectation to be a saint or feel a moral debt that never hits zero. You are running on a script of “shoulds” without reward, trapped between the Role you were assigned and the Soul you’ve had to hide.
Dr. Alex Gomez works with people who are fixers, caretakers, thoughtful watchers, “good ones”, but also dreamers and restrained adventurers who get weighed down being “on-duty" to do the right things, especially when it comes to others. They struggle to find a balance between that level of felt responsibility and carving out a life that includes a bit more of what they dream about. In psychological terms these conflicts show up as anxiety, social anxiety, phobias, depression and loneliness, low self-esteem and imposter syndrome, sleep disturbance and exhaustion, identity conflicts, stuckness transitioning to adulthood, attachment and relationship struggles, family of origin conflict, cultural values conflict, existential crises, and personality disorders.
You have spent your life being careful, considerate and competent — and you’re stuck and tired. I will be a compassionate challenger who won’t wince at what you fear is your worst and who won’t give you easy outs, but help you find ways to settle the defenses behind your self-defeating patterns and learn how to integrate your values with the “parallel life” you have waiting in the wings. Carve out a life that actually includes you! It shouldn’t take this much effort just to exist.
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