It shouldn't take this much effort just to exist

(and you can stop fixing, pretending, hiding, shrinking or sleeping your way through life)

You’re the “reliable one”, the “good one.”

Responsible. Thoughtful. Capable. And somehow… still feeling a bit condemned.

You…

• Succeed but feel like an imposter.

• Are a dreamer who feels stuck

• Love deeply, but often feel like a lonely caretaker.

• Crave connection, then isolate.

• Are careful and considerate when it seems no one else is (yet still feel not good enough).

• You’re running on a script of "shoulds"—without recognition or relief.

And you are just so exhausted.

The Load-Bearing Wall

The people who find their way to my practice are often the load-bearing walls of their own lives.

You don’t fix things because you’re trying to be a martyr; you fix them because you feel like you have to…and still the moral debt never hits zero.

Somewhere along the way, you had to be the steady one, the good one, while your soul had to be put on hold.

When the Cracks Show

Eventually, that tension starts to leak out. It usually looks like:

• Anxiety and Social Anxiety

• Guilt

• Loneliness

• Irritability

• Sleep problems

• Identity confusion

• Trouble with “adulting”

• Feeling Stuck

Working Together

I work with the fixers, the caretakers, and the thoughtful watchers, but also with dreamers and adventurers who feel held back. I work with people who are tired of being permanently “on duty.”

I’m not here to "fix" you, and I won’t wince at the parts of you that you’re afraid are "too much" or "not enough."

I will be your compassionate challenger. The goal isn't to tear down who you are, it’s to recognize and embrace how much you actually matter within the world you live.

We’ll work toward a life where you can:

• Align your values with the life you actually want to live.

• Make room for the "messier" emotions: anger, desire, and grief.

• Loosen the grip of "should."

• Exist without feeling like you’re putting on a moral performance.

You don't need a different life waiting in the wings. You just need a life that actually includes you in it.

You Don’t Have to Disappear to Be Good

You have spent your life being careful, considerate, and competent. You don’t have to stop being those things. You just don't have to disappear to maintain them.

It shouldn’t take this much effort just to exist..

The DocGom Approach

With a Master’s in Existential-Humanistic Psychology and a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology (Psy.D.), Doctor Gomez brings over a decade of experience across university, community, and private practice settings. The DocGom approach integrates relational and sociocultural perspectives to move you beyond simple insight toward a new harmony with your emotions and a lived sense of ease. I’m here to help you stop managing your life and start inhabiting it.